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Tuesday ~ 29th May 2007

I have so many feelings and emotions inside that sometimes I feel almost like bursting.
And the thing is, the problems that cause all these painful feelings and emotions is not me.
I realised that what I am experiencing, there are many many many other people experiencing exactly the same thing too!!!
Its not a good thing.

Since I was a kid, adults always say, "Your parents are always right, you have to listen to them."
I did, I listened, I learn.

I learn that parents are always wrong, and we should not be the only one to listen to them, they need to listen to us more!
Parents live in denial.
When their child committed a very very wrong doing, they say,"Time will change him. He needs unconditional love to change him". After thinking this for 18 years, the wrong doings become worst and they still think and say this! Ultimate denial!!!

Such an irony??? I don't understand one bit. Where in their hearts they find "unconditional love" when the person they are giving unconditional love to doesn't appreciate it and just kills it???

The world is a very selfish place. People who needs and deserves unconditional love doesn't get it, people who are the very scum of the society don't even deserve sympathy gets all the unconditional love that he doesn't even deserve!!!

What is this world coming to??

Parents say a lot of things. They do not do what they preach.
Parents are to blame for their child's wrong doings.
Its not because you didn't guide your child correctly. You've guided your child correctly, taught him all the values and manners that one definitely needs to have.

You are to blame for not doing the right thing when your child does the wrong thing.
This is where you are to be blamed!!! And very severely!!!

When he does wrong, instead of scolding him, you give him chance after chance after chance. After awhile, it seems that doing wrong allows more chances, so why not do more??
Doing wrong, gives me more chances!!! WOW! Fantastic bargain!!!

Parents say the wrong things!!! They never listen to what they are saying to their kids!
The child commits a very serious wrong and this is what the parents say...
"You are big enough to think for yourself. You should know what is right and what is wrong. I don't want to see this happening again."

Let me explain.

Firstly, if the child know what is right and wrong, he wouldn't have committed the wrong!!! Obviously he doesn't know!!!
Secondly, by telling him he is big enough to think for himself, you are telling him that he can do what he wants already since you tell him he is big enough, so what for he listen to you???
Lastly, if he is not convinced to listen to you and doesn't know what is right and wrong, do you think your wish of "don't want to see this happening again" will come true??? Obviously not!!! The opposite will come true, you'll definitely see this happening again!!!

Can you believe this is what parents tell their kids when they are did a very very bad wrong???
Simple analysis. Tell me I am wrong!!!

Hmm, feels kinda good letting it out!
Phew!